The best thing I lost and found in my life

People say that to be happy you need health, family, friends, a nice house, enough money to get by and to enjoy a holiday every now and then, a job that keeps you satisfied and challenged.

I agree to all of the above. There is one thing, though, which we cannot avoid but have if we genuinely want to be happy: being happy with ourselves. As long as we keep trying to be different, are jealous or what others have that we do not, or simply avoid thinking that we are not pleased with ourselves… we will not be happy with our friends, family, jobs, houses. All these things will help us go through the day, and sometimes make us honestly happy, but for happiness to be always at reach we really need to accept who we are.

I used to be a person constantly trying to be different, I thought I was just trying to be better, for me and for the others. I came to realise and accept I was just unhappy of myself. And the day I realised it, I felt so sad: how can I not like myself? How am I supposed to live with myself if I do not like who I am? It turns out, luckily for me, that I am not alone in this since most people feel the same. Knowing this I lost and found the right way for me to achieve acceptance: meditation worked wonders and since I do that regularly, I am just a happier person. The best thing I lost and found in life, is me!

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Getting backpack ready for school

First day of school, ever. An important moment for a child, maybe he will never forget it. I remember that when I was a kid it was common to take a picture to create a memory that shall not be forgotten. To be fair, I remember very little of that day, and what I remember is connected to the feeling of abandonment I lived when my mother left the classroom on that first day. I had tears in my eyes, and even though I had friends I knew very well sitting next to me, I felt very lonely. I remember that my mother lied to me that day. She told me she would only exit for a few minutes to talk to the school director and to get me my books; instead, I only saw her again at the gate once the day was over and the teacher had accompanied us out. I am totally aware that my mum’s gesture was meant to protect me. She was honestly trying to help me get through a moment of detachment without causing me too much pain. If she had told me “now I have to leave, see you at lunch time”, I would certainly have started crying my eyes out, imploring her to take me with her. I guess I was that kind of child that clings on to their mothers. I do not like now to believe I was so needy. However, there must have been something that went wrong if I was a clingy child, and that had to be on my parents. I love them, I really do, but a child cannot be blamed.

As a mother, now, I was determined to ensure my child would not live those emotions. My child is, alas, like how I was. Having been thinking about this moment for a while, I had come up with an idea of slowly guiding my child into independence. So, I started talking about school, about how it is like, (good things clearly) and to further fight resistance from her side, I introduced the theme of backpack for school.

I told her how important backpacks for school are because they contain a person’s life and personality. I told her that she would have an important mission: to choose the right backpack for her. I made it clear that it was so important that she would have to be very serious about it. Because that would make her feel safe in any situation, reminding her of who she is. 

We went together to the shop and walked through aisles full of colourful backpacks for school and that little human surprised me for her dignity and concentration. When she found what she considered fine, she called me. I asked why that one, and she showed me a little pocket on top. She said, “we’ll put in here the magic that will keep me safe”. I was stunned, both by her intelligence and by the realisation I had actually managed to have her overcome her fears.

The first day of school arrived, and she walked through her classroom door with a bit of shame mixed with worry, but she looked at her backpack for school, and smiled. She then told me “you can go mum”.

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An interest in office chairs

Office chairs always seem so comfortable when you look at them, with their padded, supporting seat and designer look. Whenever I see one in a house, an office or even in a shop, I always think I should get one for myself. Office chairs give you right away the impression that you could seat on them for ages, comfortably, without feeling any sort of ache.

Office chairs are specifically built to ensure that a person who needs to sit for a long period of time does not incur in health problems. It is a well known fact that sedentary jobs are a risk for our body wellbeing: sitting for too many hours provokes a cluster of conditions, such as increased blood pressure, high blood sugar, excess body fat around the waist and abnormal cholesterol levels that leads to metabolic syndromes. Not to mention that lungs suffer compression from the sitting posture, which results in less space for your lungs to expand when you breathe and limits the amount of oxygen that fills your lungs. Finally, we all know that we may end up suffering of a backache or neckache if we sit on an uncomfortable chair.

Office chairs are then very important tools in our daily lives if we do have a sedentary job or a sedentary life, in general – in fact, we don’t necessarily only use office chairs in an office. I have decided to buy some office chairs for my home studio, for example. I do work from home sometimes, but it is also meant for any free time sitting activity, such as painting, drawing or sewing, for example. I first wanted to buy them online (there are plenty of websites where you can find office chairs), but I soon realised I needed the help of a professional because I had no idea of what to search in office chairs. In the right shop I found exactly what I was searching for and ended up buying two office chairs which, don’t get me wrong, are quite expensive, but I will never regret buying. They are among my favourite pieces of furniture, not only because they look really good, but also because they are extremely comfortable.

In the end, these are not simple chairs, they are more of an instrument that will help you keep under control your health. So, if you need to sit for long hours because of your work or hobby you should consider good quality office chairs.

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